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Does Restructuring Mean Failure? [New Office + A New Direction]

I had to tweeze my own eyebrows this morning and I’m writing this from my parents  garage turned home office, yes ladies and gentlemen we are in a recession. Recessions require us to re-think, re-evaluate and sometimes restructure. Let me first explain the eyebrow thing. I haven’t had to tweeze my own eyebrows in a […]

You Can Be Strong, Beautiful, Powerful and Revolutionary

When I hit that ‘publish’ button on the last blog post i wrote, I could feel that this time would be different.   I had never wanted to take down a post as much as I wanted to take that one down.   As a survivor of sexual assault, your worst nightmare is that people […]

Facing My Rapist: The Final Chapter of My Healing

My hands are sweaty and my heart is racing. Just a second ago I heard people talking and laughing, honking cars and city sounds. All of sudden my entire world stood still. The only thing I could feel was the pounding of my racing  heart beat. How are you? he said. HOW AM I? Being […]

Reclaiming My Body | Self Empowerment After Trauma

I was sitting at the kitchen table when my dad told me a story about a woman whose husband showed up to the school she teaches at and beat her. I expressed my anger but as soon as my dad left, my eyes filled with tears. These are the tears of the Womb(man). The raping. […]

What My Ex-Husband (and Divorce) Taught Me About Love

I’ve been thinking about love a lot lately. Ok that’s a lie; the truth is I’ve been feeling a little lonely lately. It’s weird because I’m not sad and I definitely enjoy solitude but I’ve still been feeling a deep sense of longing for love. If I just wanted to hook up with someone I […]

The Effects of Rape No One Will Talk About

April is was sexual assault awareness month and I’ve wanted to do a rape awareness project every year for the last few years. I tried but no one wants to talk about rape. I get it; there is a lot of shame that comes with being a rape victim survivor. I don’t want to talk […]

You Don’t Owe ‘Pretty’ to Anyone

[I havent havent blogged in a minute. Writing is kind of like working out; the longer I wait to write, the longer it takes to get back in the habit. I wrote two posts today. This one is mostly just a buffer for a more intense heavy one for Sunday so enjoy!] I walked passed […]

Why Rejection and Abandonment Are So Hard

About two weekends ago I made an attempt to go out. I actually went out. I was around some really cool people and I was like “yea this is great, I’m out, I’m meeting people this is great!” I started to get this tinge of anxiety but I was determined to ignore it. I thought […]

Intimacy: Using, Being Used and What I Really Want

I was driving to work this morning when I started talking out loud: “Dear Universe, Dear God, Dear Great Grandma, Dear Guardian Angels… I’m a little irritated this morning. I’m not actually mad at him. I’m mad at myself. I hurt myself. I gave a piece of my spirit, my energy, my body to someone […]

Lets Get Really Vulnerable: A New Chapter

I haven’t written in months! Writing is one of those things that sets me on fire and calms my racing spirit all at the same time. For a long time I used this blog for work, for fitness but I felt like there were things I couldn’t write about. What would my readers think? Was […]