Guest Post: My Birthday, My Period and Paying it forward

Menstruation: The menstrual cycle of a woman. The experience of starting my period was generally a fairly pleasant one. I remember my mom mentioning in a few sentences about what was going to happen but not detail. The onset happened when I was in 8th grade, as a student at Oshigambo High School – which […]

Confident Conversations: Ngutati Shimhopileni

You know how there are people in the world who just radiate joyful energy?  When you are around them you find yourself smiling but you don’t even know why? Ngutati is one of those people. You cant help but feel good when you are around her. She is not afraid to express her opinion and […]

Body Shame Body Love: Taleni Nengola

Its hard to love your body, yourself and the way you look in todays “you’re never good enough” culture. Companies spend millions of dollars to feed our insecurities. I am a supporter of striving to be a better version of yourself but its important to love yourself, your body and how you look exactly where you are. […]

How to Love When You’ve Been Hurt

How to heal when you’ve been hurt so that you can move on to accepting love the way you know it should be. In the videos below are my 5 tips of how to love when you’ve been hurt: And part 2: I hope this helps. Peace and Love ~Nelao  

The Year 2015: Embracing My Mess

I cannot believe its new year’s eve already, It was just the beginning of 2015. I came into this year a hot mess and still am a hot mess. I’m just a little better at owning my hot mess-ness.  Actually, I’m starting to be friends with my mess. Let me explain. I used to be […]

5 Lessons My Biggest Mistakes Have Taught Me

As the year draws to an end I usually do a lot of reflecting to assess the year and how I can make improvements the following the year. This year I was forced to do some reflecting a little earlier because a mistake I made this weekend. I definitely believe in right and wrong and […]

5 Tips to Loving Your Body Just As It Is

I was standing in the kitchen today and my mom said “Nelao, you have such a nice body!”. When someone compliments my body, my initial instinct is to immediately respond with whatever improvements I feel I need to make. I said “You think so?”. My mom said that she would love to have a body like […]

I’m Quitting My Job and Moving to Namibia!

Yup. You read that right. The past year and a half year has been one of great change, as those who are close to me know. I’ve spent that year a half trying to put my life back together and land back on my feet. One thing I can tell you about making change is that you don’t really […]

The Day I Took Myself On A Date

I was having a rough day. Emotions and feelings were running high. I was feeling a little lonely and feeling a little rejected. My place to go when I’m feeling this way is usually total numbness. I could just pretend I have no feelings at all. But no. I’m doing something different remember, I thought to myself. Ok Fine, i’ll get […]

The Best ‘Bad Day’ Ever and 4 Tips to Feeling Better

I sometimes struggle with this false idea that things are supposed to be easy and if they are not, something has gone terribly wrong. I tend to think this way when it comes to relationships with others and especially when it comes to my relationship with myself. I’m working on it. I’ve been reading the blog Big […]